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Should the guy still always pay?
My boyfriend and I have always split the bills everywhere we go. One week he will pay for our dinner out, the next week I will. However, recently I have had some unexpected bills that I need to pay off and he told me he would pay for all of our outings until I was more financially secure. BUT every time we do go out, he complains that he has to pay. Should I just pay even though I can't afford it? What would you do in this situation?
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I always try to pay for myself, then its up to the guy if he wants to let me. I think you should thank your boyfriend for paying and reassure him that things will go back to the way they were once you have a little more in your wallet.
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My boyfriend always pays for me. He gets upset when I try to sneak my credit card to the waiter lol. Maybe you guys can just eat at home or eat something really cheap that you can afford. He's aware of your financial situation, and if he's not struggling with money, he should pay. I'm all for splitting the check but he should be a gentleman and take care of his woman in crisis! My brother has a girlfriend who is a lot wealthier than he us. She came from a wealthy family and all that jazz but my brother NEVER lets her pay.
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Talk to him.
Tell him he knows you're under financial stress right now and can't afford to go out and he agreed to pay because of that. Give him two options: If he wants to go out, he'll have to pay, or if really doesn't want to pay, you two can stay in.
Everything can be solved with communication:)
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My boyfriend insists he pays. If I even ask he gets offended. I don't mind it. I think it's sweet that old-fashioned men exist <3
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I don't think men should always have to pay. My guy and I either split our check or take turns, just based on how we're feeling that night. Usually one of us will just insist on paying, haha. Paying for your SO is a sweet gesture coming from either a guy or a girl!
In your case, though, he's being kind of an ass about it. It's ridiculous of him to say he'll pay in a crisis, and then complain about it. Like one of the above commenters said: talk to him about it, and explain that if he wants to go out so bad, he'll have to pay for now. But also suggest fun night-in dates as an alternative. So yeah, he doesn't HAVE to pay, but it's unfair of him to insist you go out when he knows you don't have the money, and then whine about paying.
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Well i enjoy paying sometimes but if i do i make sure its worth it and he definately wants it.
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it is a modern day & age. Men are not always expected to pay all the time now that it is realized in our culture that women have fully functioning brains in our heads!
We are capable of receiving an education, a good job, become a CEO or master of the universe, so why should we rely on someone to pay for us to go out? most girls make more money than their boyfriend because they have a stronger work ethic.
Keep it fair, if he is paying all the time for everything, its going to make his wallet hurt soon. times are tough for everyone. Try to get back on your feet as soon as possible so you can support all of your own needs. Financial arguments can hurt a healthy relationship, don't let that happen to you. Good luck!
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